Girl, I know being a beliver is hard, especially when you’re surrounded by other people at church who talk about their personal experiences with God. It can be so discouraging when you pray and feel nothing, or listen but hear nothing. Well, there are a couple of things you should know.
Great question! Of course, we all want to fit in and be loved. There is nothing wrong with wanting friends and acceptance, but we do need to cautious of trying to win the approval of man or falling into peer pressure. If you compromise your character to become popular, then you could possibly fall into sin
Am I now trying to win the approval of men, or of God? Or am I trying to please men? If I were still trying to please men, I would not be a servant of Christ (Galatians 1:10).
Blessed are you, when men shall revile you, and persecute you, and shall say all manner of evil against you falsely, for my sake (Matthew 5:11).
If you belonged to the world, it would love you as its own. As it is, you do not belong to the world, but I have chosen you out of the world. That is why the world hates you (John 15:19).
Remember, our goal isn’t to please man, but God. We want to fit in, but sometimes as Holy Ghost filled children of God, we just don’t. Jesus was mocked, ridiculed and persecuted because He was unique and different from society. That doesn’t mean you can’t have friends or want to fit in–just remember what Jesus Christ our Lord endured. Always ask yourself, “Is what I am doing honoring God?”
God talks about a good reputation being better than fine perfume. There is also a balance of wisdom that we don’t live for the praise of man.
A good name is better than fine perfume (Ecclesiastes 7:1).
We want to have wisdom above all else, so if you are hesitant in how you are dealing with your friendships and popularity, remember to ask God for His help. God is very clear about us not loving the world in the sense of being attached to earthly things and putting our treasures where moths and rust destroy (Matthew 6:19). God even tells us if we love the world, the love of the Father isn’t in us (1 John 2: 15 ). Why? Because when you are truly a Son or Daughter of God, you want to obey HIM and want the things of His Kingdom. The things of the earth grow slowly unappealing and you realize the eternal is more important.
I can tell you that the older I get, the less I care about what people think of me. I mainly care what God thinks. He is the One I want to serve and honor. Granted, we all want to fit in and be loved and admired, but remember to shine for Jesus and you will be a standout. Even if some people like it or don’t, remember that God is proud of you when you honor Him,and when you are walking and living for His glory.
I really believe it is a double blessing if you are living a Godly life and people like you. Truthfully, God’s opinion is the only one that really matters, but we do need to love, reach and care for others, so use wisdom and balance in all things. May God bless you!
If any of you lacks wisdom, he should ask God, who gives generously to all without finding fault, and it will be given to him (James 1:5).
I think it’s fantastic that you have a desire to witness! Not many people have the courage to witness to others, but as proud Pentecostals we are called to share God’s Word. But it’s not easy, is it? It can be tough to get up the courage to begin a conversation, let alone have it, with someone who’s older than you. But witnessing to others doesn’t have to be a scary experience. I mean, what is witnessing if it’s not sharing how amazing God is?
Witnessing is basically talking with others about your own experience with God. The key here is to share how God has worked in you and in your life. And if you focus on yourself and not on others, then witnessing won’t be so daunting.
So here’s what I think you should do: