HIS DAUGHTERS  

    The modern magazine for today's apostolic young lady...

"I say that I have a relationship with Jesus, and I try so hard. I read the Bible and I pray all the time but I don’t feel anything. I have never had “a moment.” It makes me feel sad a lot. Does that mean that I am not a true beliver? Or that I am not saved? What do I do?" 

Girl, I know being a beliver is hard, especially when you’re surrounded by other people at church who talk about their personal experiences with God. It can be so discouraging when you pray and feel nothing, or listen but hear nothing. Well, there are a couple of things you should know.

  1. Each relationship with God is different. Everyone has their own personal relationship with Him. And He interacts in our lives in a way He feels is necessary. He may whisper to you, speak to you through a dream, answer a prayer, bring someone into your life, or He may remain silent so that your faith is strengthened.
  2. Your relationship with Christ is reflected and strengthened in how you live your life. How you act, speak, treat others and so on. There are a lot of things you can do: but, here is my advise...
    1. Talk to your pastor about salvation so you can get a better understanding of it.
    2. Understand that your relationship with Jesus is expressed throughout your life. So go to church, take part in youth group, the sacraments, missions and anything else your church has to offer. This way you are learning more about being a true follower of Jesus while surrounding yourself with like-minded people who can help you strengthen your relationship with Christ.
    3. Live according to scripture. So when reading your Bible, relate the lessons to your life, such as the way you treat others, act, give, love, marry, everything. Christ calls for you to mimic Him. And in doing so, you’ll understand Him more, and this will draw you closer to Him.
    4. Pray constantly. And I’m not just talking at meals and at bedtime. Constantly! Prayer can be an ongoing dialogue in your mind. It can occur whenever it feels right and necessary. When you’re stressed, talk to Him. While you’re in school, during a test, taking a walk, and so on. Christ is with you for as long as you ask Him to be there. And just knowing He’s with you always is an amazing comfort, isn’t it?
    5. See Jesus in everything. I mean, everything! See Him in the sun, the rain, the snow, the flowers, babies, love, friendship, silence. He’s in everything. He created everything. And if you see Him in it all, you can make every second a “moment.”
    6. Don’t compare yourself to others! I know it’s hard. But if you focus on others and their relationships or “moments,” you’re not focusing on yours, and you’ll likely miss them. 

    7. Know above all that you are loved and that Jesus is always there and will never desert you!

"I saw a girl on Twitter say that she chooses Jesus over popularity, sex, cussing, rebellion and immodesty and that no sin is worth it. Of course I’m very happy she said that  but it makes it sound like being popular is a sin.In my opinion, it is not a sin because you can’t really choose to be popular, and there are some popular people that are very nice and good role models. Also, everybody wants popularity, and I admit, I’d love it if I were popular but I’m cool with not being popular. I’m happy with a few good friends, a loving family, and God always being by my side. And I do believe that there are some popular people that are saved too. So what are your thoughts and opinions? Is it bad to be popular?”

Great question! Of course, we all want to fit in and be loved. There is nothing wrong with wanting friends and acceptance, but we do need to cautious of trying to win the approval of man or falling into peer pressure. If you compromise your character to become popular, then you could possibly fall into sin

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Am I now trying to win the approval of men, or of God? Or am I trying to please men? If I were still trying to please men, I would not be a servant of Christ (Galatians 1:10).

Blessed are you, when men shall revile you, and persecute you, and shall say all manner of evil against you falsely, for my sake (Matthew 5:11).

If you belonged to the world, it would love you as its own. As it is, you do not belong to the world, but I have chosen you out of the world. That is why the world hates you (John 15:19).


Remember, our goal isn’t to please man, but God. We want to fit in, but sometimes as Holy Ghost filled children of God, we just don’t. Jesus was mocked, ridiculed and persecuted because He was unique and different from society. That doesn’t mean you can’t have friends or want to fit in–just remember what Jesus Christ our Lord endured. Always ask yourself, “Is what I am doing honoring God?

God talks about a good reputation being better than fine perfume. There is also a balance of wisdom that we don’t live for the praise of man.

A good name is better than fine perfume (Ecclesiastes 7:1).

We want to have wisdom above all else, so if you are hesitant in how you are dealing with your friendships and popularity, remember to ask God for His help. God is very clear about us not loving the world in the sense of being attached to earthly things and putting our treasures where moths and rust destroy (Matthew 6:19). God even tells us if we love the world, the love of the Father isn’t in us (1 John 2: 15 ). Why? Because when you are truly a Son or Daughter of God, you want to obey HIM and want the things of His Kingdom. The things of the earth grow slowly unappealing and you realize the eternal is more important.

I can tell you that the older I get, the less I care about what people think of me. I mainly care what God thinks. He is the One I want to serve and honor. Granted, we all want to fit in and be loved and admired, but remember to shine for Jesus and you will be a standout. Even if some people like it or don’t, remember that God is proud of you when you honor Him,and when you are walking and living for His glory.

I really believe it is a double blessing if you are living a Godly life and people like you. Truthfully, God’s opinion is the only one that really matters, but we do need to love, reach and care for others, so use wisdom and balance in all things. May God bless you!

If any of you lacks wisdom, he should ask God, who gives generously to all without finding fault, and it will be given to him (James 1:5).


"I am a proud pentecostal, and many members of my family aren’t. How can I witness to those who are older than me? It’s different when the person’s opinion doesn’t matter to me, but I want them to love me and I REALLY don’t want to offend my family. I know God says that we WILL offend people, but I want to keep it to a minimum where my family is concerned. But, at the same time, I want them to be saved, because I love them and want to see them in heaven. How can I talk about Jesus with older relatives?"

I think it’s fantastic that you have a desire to witness! Not many people have the courage to witness to others, but as proud Pentecostals we are called to share God’s Word. But it’s not easy, is it? It can be tough to get up the courage to begin a conversation, let alone have it, with someone who’s older than you. But witnessing to others doesn’t have to be a scary experience. I mean, what is witnessing if it’s not sharing how amazing God is?

Witnessing is basically talking with others about your own experience with God. The key here is to share how God has worked in you and in your life. And if you focus on yourself and not on others, then witnessing won’t be so daunting.


So here’s what I think you should do:

  1. Before talking to anyone about your faith, do your homework. Seriously! Learn everything about your faith. You can’t have a solid discussion about a subject if you’re not well informed about it. And trust me when I say that not many Pentecostals are familiar with the teachings of holiness and the Holy Ghost. If you have the knowledge, you’ll have the answers and therefore you’ll have the credibility. You’ll then earn the trust of those you speak to.
  2. Begin witnessing by being an example. You have to show others how being a Christian has changed your life for the better. And you can only do this by living it. So glorify God in everything you say and do, and others will see that. This in itself may spark conversation that leads to witnessing. So make your life living proof of the Word–sometimes that’s all it takes.
  3. Don’t set out to teach others about God. Set out to share what God means to you. Relate it to you, so they can see the effect of the relationship on you. This takes the focus off of them. And eventually the questions about God will come.
  4. Be willing to listen and learn. No one likes to be talked at, so don’t use this opportunity to lecture someone about how they should turn to Christ or live a more Christian life. You want to have a conversation.
  5. Don’t compromise the message. If you’re going to get into it, don’t be afraid to share the truth, but do it diplomatically.
  6. Don’t have an argument. You just put people on the defensive and then the goal shifts from sharing the Word to winning a fight. If you want to win a soul, don’t be so focused on winning the argument.
  7. Leave the conversation open. You want to share the truth, but you don’t want to offend so that your family member doesn’t come back for more. You also want to keep the conversation going. Don’t exhaust the subject so that the next time you have a family gathering, people make an extra effort to steer clear of you!
  8. Always remain respectful, especially when it comes to your elders!

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